The biggest changes in my life have always come suddenly and unexpectedly. I remember this as I try to incorporate positive changes into my life, and I become frustrated by how slowly it takes for my dreams to come to fruition.
When I was in my early twenties, I stopped one day to get gas, and met my first fiancé. The night before I met him, the man I was dating had asked me what I would say if he gave me a ring? Grant, who did give me a ring, which I accepted, and I almost married, looked like my twin brother with dark hair and sparkling green eyes. I spent three wonderful years with him, and even though we went our separate ways, those were years I wouldn’t have wanted to miss.
I ended up at Oregon State in the Alpha Phi Soriety house in much the same way. I was planning on following my sister to our local JC, but late that summer, I met a group of Alpha Phi’s at a party in Lake Oswego, and before I knew it, I was in their pledge class of 1986.
My husband and I spent the first five years of our marriage trying to have a baby. We finally decided to consult a fertility specialist and do IVF, weeks before this was to happen, I went on vacation to Toronto to golf with my aunties. They drank dark rum and lemonade on the course, but the drinks they poured were so full of rum they looked like a Coca Cola. They also smoked. And not just a little. We started in the morning drinking coffee and sherry, with our cigarettes. Then onto the golf club, followed by drinks on the patio, wine with dinner, then aperitifs with more coffee and cigarettes. Canadians.
Because the Universe has a sense of humor, I came home, and to my horror, found myself pregnant. Nine months later, unexpectedly and seemingly out of the blue, I was holding my precious daughter in my arms.
In the summer of 2016 my life appeared to have a certain tragectory, but once again, the Universe had other plans.
As I go through these monumental changes in my life, I try to remember those unexpected happenings, and stay calm, go with the flow, and have faith.
Love and blessings to all.