Find Yourself A New Enemy has been my most read post behind my Chicken Whiskey Soup recipe. It has a strong message of the danger of allowing toxic people into our lives.
It is important to surround ourselves with kind, loving and supportive people and to be that for those around us.
Remember to except nothing less than the love, kindness, and respect that you deserve. Not because you are special in anyway, but because you are a human being and a child of God.
May 26, 2017
For a myriad of reasons, before my husband died, I would tolerate toxic relationships in my life. Sometimes, I would think this person really pushes me to be better, when in reality, they were just putting me down, or I would think, I had to tolerate spiteful comments, and disrespectful treatment, because our daughters were friends, or this person was a relative.
After my husband died, my heart was so raw, I could only be near my dearest and sweetest friends and family. I could no longer listen to someone tell me not to be so sensitive, when I called them on their bad behavior, or listen to them apologize for the same things, again and again. With my heart broken, I allowed no discussion, I simply notified them, and swiftly removed them from my life. At first, I thought, I’ll get back to them later, but now that I know how liberating it feels to surround myself with only loving people, I may never let them back into my life.
To allow myself to be treated only with respect and tenderness, has been an amazing gift to myself, and what an enormously positive impact it has had on my life as a whole.
Initially, there was the fear, that if I kept tossing people out of my life, I would end up very much alone, but this has proven unfounded, and the reverse has been true. I have more friends now than ever before.
I find myself overwhelmed sometimes, and my life really can be busy with, a business and nonprofit to run, classes to teach, two teenagers, a dog, two cats and a rabbit, but my inner circle is tranquil, and my days are gradually becoming more and more, peaceful and calm.
Love and blessings to all.