Yes, I have been dating. A close friend of mine told me that I would have to kiss some toads, as I am not a toad kisser and never have been, I have simply been shaking their hand. So far, I’ve met two different men, both well educated, one a therapist, and the other an M.D. After the year I’ve had, the irony that I would attract men that are in the healing professions is not lost on me.
Over the past year, I have taken a hard look at the success of my 22 year marriage, and the other beautiful people I’ve loved and dated in the past. It’s been fun to look for patterns and personal preferences in myself, and use this wisdom as I embark on this new adventure.
When I was in my twenties, I went through a period that my then, best friend Hilary, called my serial dating phase. For a period, when I was living in San Francisco I went out with every person that asked me. I kept thinking, there could be a diamond in the rough, and I would miss this person if I based my decisions on appearance, or first impressions alone. During that time, I went on a ton of dates, I learned a great deal from this, and I remember it fondly, however, now I don’t have that kind of time. My time is valuable as I have my beautiful daughter to raise, many friends, work I love, and a long list of hobbies and interests.
The good news is there is no rush, and with a divorce rate of 50% plus, there is no shortage of single people to choose from. The advantage of age is knowing yourself better, and knowing what you need and don’t need.
At the end of the day, the most important attribute to look for is a good friend. When I was younger, I liked to be by myself more often than not, so my late husband’s golf obsession was a blessing, now that I’m older, I would like a buddy, someone with shared interests, who can be my best friend.
So far, it’s been great fun. Until I find my best friend, I look forward to meeting new people, and expanding my horizons.
Love and blessings to all.